What Children Teach Us

I grew up in a conservative ward on the east side of Salt Lake City. It’s not the richest part of town, but it definitely qualifies as somewhere between middle- and upper-class. The houses run for several hundred-thousand dollars (in Salt Lake they’re a lot). There is one small apartment complex on the edge of the ward boundary, next to a busy street that’s pretty run-down. The neighbors are concerned about this and have been pressuring to have them torn down and rezoned for homes for a while now.

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I Have Seen the Enemy and it is Me. Or is it?

Early on in my marriage, I claimed the last session of General Conference as my own.  After a busy weekend of tag-team parenting, the final session has always been a special time of reflection.  I go alone and I sit alone. I like to hear from speakers who are less known to me and enjoy the feeling of ritual completion.

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New Blogger!

We are really, really pleased to announce that a new blogger is joining BCC.  We’ve been impressed with Kris Wright’s writing over at A Grain of Salt and at Feminist Mormon Housewives, so we bribed and threatened Microsoft-style until she agreed to join us here.  Here’s what you need to know about Kris:

  • She joined the church at 21, at the end of her fourth year of university, taking over a year to join the church (Kris notes, "watch for how I became a Mormon and a feminist in the same year").
  • After living in the south of France and travelling around Europe, she returned to do a master’s in 19th century American women’s history.
  • To make a long story short, she now has four children: 3 boys and a girl (ages 10, 8, 6 and 4.)

Kris is really interested in alternative energy and house building, especially straw bale houses (which results in her hearing lots of three little pigs jokes from members of her ward).  Before this fall, she was an upstanding citizen of cyberspace who just e-mailed, googled and went to Amazon occasionally — but then, she met Kristine (who casually mentioned that she blogged).  She decided to check out some Evil Blog and the rest is history — plus a lot of unfinished domestic tasks.

Welcome Kris!  We’re glad to have you aboard.

…On an Unrelated Matter…

Okay, this has nothing to do with my earlier posts about the Evil to Come.  But next week, I am planning on taking a few days to visit family in Provo.  Anything I should do while I’m out there?  Any special bookstores, art collections, anything?  Those of you who live in Zion, I’d love to see y’all while I’m out there.  The fry sauce is on me.

Arranging the Library

When I was in Kindergarten, my teacher gave me a bookmark that said,”my books are friends that never fail me.” It turns out to have been a prescient gift, since I spent much of elementary school (and jr. high and high school) feeling quite friendless, except for my books. However, since college, I’ve sadly mistreated my book friends–schlepping them around the country in boxes, unpacking haphazardly (if at all) and throwing them on shelves willy-nilly. Since we’re completely snowed in this weekend, and my husband has an apparently limitless tolerance for playing Yahtzee with my children (bless him!), I’ve been getting reacquainted with my old friends and trying to find a more comfortable and orderly arrangement for them. I’ve learned a few things:

1) I’m really, really, really Mormon. I don’t have a lot of the standard markers of Mormonism in the rest of my house–no Del Parsons Jesus, no framed copy of the Proclamation on the Family (I know you’re all shocked, shocked!)–but once you get to the bookshelves, my preoccupation is very clear. I think close to half of all the reading material in the house is Mormon-themed. I’m not sure what to think about that.
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The Temple – Secret or Sacred?

Disclaimer: I understand that there are many sensitivities surrounding any discussion of the temple. Please know that I avoid specifics and do my best to accord the LDS temple the respect I think it deserves. I hope others who may not be LDS or members will do the same, and I hope we as Latter-day Saints extend the same courtesy to other faiths.

It’s my understanding that the temple ceremony was changed again recently. I haven’t attended and so am unaware of many specifics. I do know that the washing and anointing ceremony is handled differently, though the wording is the same. I was also told that one change may "anger feminists" (a quote from my source).

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Rock the Vote!

You all should take notice of the Bell Brothers’ Blogscar Awards, a chance to show your support for your favorite blog (ours).  Vote now  — click here!   We may have lost the election, but we can win the bloggernacle!!

Aaaarrrrrgggghh

Red church, blue church.  Aargh.  Thanks Kaimi for the tip.

“Mission Garbage” — Part I

My wife and I are about to move to Washington state. As part of the moving process, my wife has requested that I go through all my "junk" (i.e., all the miscellaneous files I drag with me wherever we go, but which I never read, and which I probably will never even look at again), and discard whatever I don’t want to keep. Intended as a quick project, it has turned, predictably, into an inefficient, interminable nightmare. Yet it is also great fun, as I get to spend countless hours rediscovering papers and pamphlets from my past that I had forgotten even existed, and peruse them at length.

Yesterday, I happened upon a file entitled, appropriately enough, "Mission Garbage." Inside, I discovered a motley assortment of writings that had circulated among various, excited elders in my mission, and which I decided, for some unknown reason, to keep copies of. Only now do I realize the purpose of my having held on to this stuff … A higher power must have wanted me to post these in the Bloggernacle for your amusement!

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An Open Letter to the January Ensign

Dear January Ensign,

Thank you for coming mid-December.  Your punctuality is an inspiration to the secular periodicals in our home, for which I am eternally grateful.  As usual, your shrink-wrapping still permitted the mailman to gaze at the cover, in hopes that someday postal service employees will come to Christ.  The image of young Joseph Smith wandering midst the Grove is a nice portrait, a refreshing change from the Kinkade-style Jesus portraits that seem to have plagued you lately.  Good to see that you are branching out. 

If I may be so bold, may I make a few recommendations?

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A Defense of Whining

I want to counter two common arguments against complaining. But first, a story:

When I was 10 years old, I took a gymnastics class one day a week after school, and my father picked me up on his way home from work. Since it was the 70s, he was in a carpool, and one day one of his carpool partners was driving when they picked me up from gymnastics. I felt very awkward about having someone besides my dad go out of his way to pick me up, and tried to get in the car as quickly as possible, so as to minimize the amount of trouble I was creating. Alas, in my haste, I managed to close the door on the tip of my thumb–just the very tip, quite painful, but not enough to draw blood or break bones. My dad’s friend (not a dad, not accustomed to waiting for kids to buckle seatbelts) was already pulling away, and I didn’t want to inconvenience him by asking him to stop. So I rode home–a 10- or 12-minute drive–with my thumb stuck in the door.
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Help! I’m giving a talk next Sunday!

I have been a Ward Mission Leader for the past 3 ½ years. That’s a very long time to have served in such a calling. It is so long, in fact, that I’ve come to believe I am entitled to some special Church benefits — perhaps a one-year Word of Wisdom reprieve, a “Get Out of Tithing Free” card, a lottery win, or at least a meaningful, Three Nephites visit as I drive up the I15. While contemplating my imminent negotiations with the Brethren on this point, I was suddenly released last week! Finally. (Truth be told, the only way I got this to happen was to wait for a new Bishop to be called, and then prematurely announce in Fast and Testimony meeting that we had finalized our plans to move out of the ward).
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Book of Mormon on the Red Carpet

So I was reading the news (read: eonline.com) this afternoon, and came across the following item in the live blog from the Golden Globes last night:

7:22 p.m.: Arrested Development‘s David Cross walks the red carpet accompanied by…the Book of Mormon. He’s overheard telling an interviewer that he brought along the tome as emergency reading material because "these things get boring."

Huh?  Was that outright funny?  (religious comedy props–the new wave of humor…)  Ironically funny?  (Perhaps an homage to Mark Twain’s famous "ether in print" comment…)  Endearing?  Surrealist Art?  Sincere?

I invite you all to come up with theories.  Author of best theory will be crowned BCC queen of the day (regardless of your actual gender.)

BYU and the Sixties

BYU NewsNet has a look back at BYU in the sixties, entitled BYU Calm Amid Turbulent Times. The article relates the experience of a BYU prof who, during that era, came to the campus (as a student) from New York, noting that this was “a time when most college campuses had protests, riots and violence. While many New York students marched along the streets protesting, most BYU students remained calm during this storm of unrest.” BYU, the best of all possible campuses!
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God Our Parent

One of the things I think Mormonism does best is cultivate the idea that God is literally our Father in Heaven; he’s our dad. We have several unique doctrines that seem to make such a belief easier for us. First, God has a body of flesh and bone. This immediately makes it easier to picture God. We’re created in His own image, therefore, it isn’t a stretch to get an idea of what He looks like. We might even picture ourselves giving him a hug or standing face to face with him.

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Coming Next … the Afterlife

Ever since I was a philosophy/religious studies major in college exploring Christian theologies (don’t worry, I am merely an amateur, and therefore not a terribly deep thinker) and reading Sterling McMurrin’s The Theological Foundations of the Mormon Religion, I have appreciated the clean, simple lines of Mormon theology. Our anthropomorphic, positivistic approach is easy to relate to (by definition) and, well, fun to explore. I find consonance in our doctrines of salvation, eternal progress, the atonement, and the fall (if you can even call the Mormon version of it that). We have a wonderfully progressive view of our human relationship with and access to the divine. We even, at least as the party line, encourage our members to ponder, reach for and believe in God on our own terms. But there is something I don’t relate to and lately have concluded I just don’t believe in.
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Can You Feel the Love?

The Deseret News ran an article entitled Women Talking to Bridge Religious Divide, reporting how some women in Salt Lake, tired of religious tension on a variety of issues, are taking a personal approach to just getting along with their co-religionists in other faiths. Is this all it takes, women talking? If only we’d known sooner!
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Yes, I’m a Loser

Long-time BCC readers will recall my plug for NBC’s weight-loss reality show, The Biggest Loser. Ryan Benson, who is one of the three finalists, is a friend of mine and a former member of my ward. I know you’ve all been faithfully watching the show weekly as a show of solidarity with your co-religionist, and even if you weren’t otherwise inclined, I’m sure my earlier demand that you do so anyway was met with your unquestioning obedience.

But just in case I’m mistaken, let me invite you to watch tomorrow’s show specifically, as it is the final episode, where “the” Biggest Loser will be chosen. So far, it looks like Ryan is likely to win, and if he does, he gets the $250,000. Even more importantly, he’ll probably get to tour the talk show circuit, and given that he’s an aspiring actor, I imagine this could really jumpstart his career.

But folks, there’s an even more important reason to tune in tomorrow….. You might even get to see ME!

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When bad interpretations happen to good people

A recent post I read somewhere on the Internet had a few head-scratching interpretations of scripture and a few mis-quotes, but more interesting to me was the way that different people witnessing the same event pick out alternate and sometimes conflicting ways of remembering. Sadly, what this means is that as ever, we’re all out there following Gods of our creation, whether or not we hold them hostage.
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Liberal Federalism?

Richard Thompson Ford has an interesting article up on Slate, "The New Blue Federalists: the case for liberal federalism."  His thesis is that while federalism is most oft-used as a conservative tool of judicial activism, it may also serve liberals equally well.  It’s a challenging idea, but I can’t help but feel like it would ultimately be bad for the country.

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My Foray into the Theatah

Well, that’s a bit of a high brow title to describe my community theater experience last month, but it was an experience to be celebrated, and what better way to celebrate than with a fake British accent.  (Just ask Madonna…or Esther).  Sometime in November, my roommate, who teaches children’s music classes at the local community center, was asked to be the pianist for the community theater’s production of  "The Best Christmas Pageant Ever."   She was already singing in another production, but after being assured that it just involved playing some hymns during the pageant, she suggested that they contact me.  I was a bit skeptical, because I’m more than a bit stage shy when it comes to playing the piano (more on that later), but I figured it was just a couple of hymns, and I really could use the money….so voila.  I got the job.

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Christmas Gifts, Revisited

Last month I posted a riff on what to give as a last-minute present.  Some good ideas got thrown around; some bad ideas got thrown out.  I just wanted to post a link to this article on Slate confirming my advice that gift cards are the worst gift EVER, and to ask: what was your most memorable gift this Christmas?  For me, it’s tough: everybody gave such wonderful presents, particularly Sumer, who shows she knows her way around an Amazon wish list.  My parents sent candy and paintings, which are spectacular.  All in all, the little notes and cards from family and friends that ended up meaning the most.  I’m very grateful for them.

Can You Support Families and Sub-Prime Lending?

Over the break I read Harvard Law Professor Elizabeth Warren’s “The Two-Income Trap” which she co-wrote with her daughter Amelia Warren Tyagi. It is a quick and easy read and, I think, an important book asking why personal bankruptcy rates are soaring to unprecedented levels. (If you are a careful reader like my wife, you will notice a hat tip to Nate Oman for “important assistance with the research work” in the acknowledgments section. Such acknowledgments have become jack-in-the-box events for me, popping up where I least expect it and confronting me with my own undistinguished career.) In their book Elizabeth and Amelia argue that the usual explanation for personal bankruptcy, superfluous consumption, is in fact a myth. Instead there are a myriad of contributing factors: the costs of a mortgage far outpacing gains in wages, healthcare costs, stay-at-home mothers moving into the workplace (because she can not bring in fresh income in an emergency) and, most important to this post, deregulation of the lending industry (Marquette National Bank of Minneapolis v. First of Omaha Service Corp) leading to usurious interest rates.

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The Burden of Forgiving

Our EQ lesson yesterday was taught by a friend of mine, Kevin.  Kevin’s topic was "Forgiving Others."   This sounds like an innocuous topic, but true to form, our Manhattan 1st Ward soon unearthed controversy in even this most benign of ideas.  We all agreed that we’re commanded to forgive others.  But there was real disagreement on the substance of forgiveness and the nature of post-forgiveness relationships.  It was a fun lesson…

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The Patience of Hope: Reading and other Epiphanies

In the last 36 hours or so, my son Peter has gone from being vaguely aware of the way letters sound to being a reader. We’ve plowed through all the Little Bear books, a couple of Seuss things, and we’re on to Amelia Bedelia. Heady stuff!
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