A few years back, a friend of mine — who shall remain namefull (Logan Bobo) — and I worked together and had a mutual acquaintance. Britney was usually good for a laugh around the proverbial water cooler. Until one day when she told us of how she had recently found out something about her husband, which, had she known in the past, would have caused her never to marry him in the first place! At the time, Logan and I were shocked (and curious, actually, we never found out what that one thing was).
Fast forward to the present. My conservative, traditionalist grandmother (as opposed to my happy-to-be-a-Democrat other grandmother) was recently given Rough Stone Rolling as a present for her birthday. To her horror, she learned of things that caused her to state the “If I would have known…I would have never…” She believes God has protected her all these years.
Now, I need to be careful. My grandmother is an amazing person with an amazing conversation story. The Church really does mean everything to her. And this trial is just a minor bump in her life experiences. The Church is still true, etc. In situations like these, it’s difficult to know if the person involved is using the “If I would have known…I would have never…” to say what he/she means or if it’s used for the intended meaning of “I’m just really annoyed and frustrated.”
But that doesn’t change the fact that I’m always fascinated by the “If I would have known…I would have never…” Being raised in the Church, I was somehow subconsciously raised with the preconceived notion that the Church is exempt from the “If I would have known…I would have never…” as is something like marriage (see first example). But we know that this, of course, is preposterous. Unfortunately, past dirty little secrets screw up the present every day.
But within the context of the Church, how much protectionism is a good thing? Should we hang our dirty laundry for everyone to see? I’m thinking, as usual, that a balance is needed. But where the balance point is, I’m not sure anyone knows.