Comments on: (Not) Reaching Out to Others http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/ A Mormon Blog Tue, 29 May 2012 03:50:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: annegb http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33148 Mon, 16 Oct 2006 16:30:44 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33148 I would have said, “I loved that book! I read it to my husband on a trip and we laughed and cried. Did you recently lose a pet? We had a yellow lab who died and we mourn that dog to this day. Aren’t they wonderful dogs?” I’d probably talk all day–unless she started, then I’d listen all day.

And if she stiffened, I’d say, “my bad, sorry, shutting up now.” But mostly, they don’t. Sad people, I mean, they don’t stiffen when you reach out.

]]> By: Steve Evans http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33147 Mon, 16 Oct 2006 04:58:38 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33147 any mouse, sometimes it is best to rip the band-aid clean off.

]]> By: any mouse http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33146 Mon, 16 Oct 2006 00:40:10 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33146 So, Steve, you not only pointed out just how wrong I am, but also felt compelled to quote Michael McLean (30)?! Talk about adding insult to injury!

]]> By: jothegrill http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33145 Sun, 15 Oct 2006 22:53:35 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33145 I think what you did was just fine, Steve. You felt compassion and it enlarged your soul. Follow the spirit. Love people the best way you know how.

]]> By: Kaimi http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33144 Sun, 15 Oct 2006 08:15:10 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33144 Ditto here.

]]> By: Kaimi http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33143 Sun, 15 Oct 2006 08:12:31 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33143 arJ,

If the (lack of) entry in the Archive of Misheard Lyrics is any indication, any mouse really is all alone.

(Of course, I didn’t see an entry for my own mishearing of True Faith, either. So I guess I’m alone too.)

]]> By: Veritas http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33142 Sun, 15 Oct 2006 08:05:49 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33142 If it were me crying on the bus reading, and you talked to me or gave me a tissue I would assume you were trying to pick me up. I would have been annoyed. I think the general rule is, if you see a stranger whos tearing up reading a book on the bus you ignore. If they are crying and hysterical its different. I really can’t imagine in the situation you describe why you would ever say anything to the girl. You would be invading personal space, imho.

]]> By: a random John http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33141 Sun, 15 Oct 2006 05:58:39 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33141 any mouse,

Given that PDoE is already plugging Mormon Mentality here let me invite you to check out my Primary Song thread in which all sorts of people have admitted to similar misunderstandings. Contrary to what Steve says, you are not all alone.

]]> By: a random John http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33140 Sun, 15 Oct 2006 05:56:47 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33140 As a nerd, I start each day with a clean handkerchief. Usually this is for my own personal use. Once when going to class I came across a guy who had wrecked his bike and was bleeding. I got out my handkerchief, assured him that it was clean, and helped tie it around his bleeding leg.

A week later the guy showed up at my dorm room with a pack of brand new handkerchiefs. Turns out he knew my roommate and figured out who I was.

Somehow I don’t think offering a handkerchief to someone on the bus would go over as well. I’m under the impression that most people think the whole concept is, um, gross. So I would hesitate to offer in a situation similar to what Steve describes.

]]> By: Steve Evans http://bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/13/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33139 Sun, 15 Oct 2006 05:34:02 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2006/10/not-reaching-out-to-others/#comment-33139 any mouse, normally I believe the song “You’re Not Alone,” but in this case you really are. All alone.

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