I’ve always found it rather awkward to have to explain the terminology of “wards” and “stakes” to my friends of different faiths. But lately, I really like the connotations that are at least dimly present in the word “ward.”
The usage of the term in the Church is left over from a time when civic and religious government were seamless in “Mormon Country,” and the usage simply corresponded with the usage of “ward” to demarcate political and administrative districts. We actually live in a place now where some neighborhoods are still known by their Ward numbers, and it has been fun to talk to realtors about whether we want to live in the “Second Ward” or the “Old Sixth Ward” (I have no idea where the new sixth ward is!). The other context in which we most often use the word “ward” is, of course, in referring to divisions within a hospital–the maternity ward, the critical care ward, or the pediatric ward. (In newer hospitals, it seems that these divisions often have their own “wing”, but we are not so far from the older usage that we don’t recognize it).
I like thinking of the ward at church in these overlapping ways. There is the buzz of activity of the political ward: leadership meetings, Primary administration (always the busiest precinct!), the chatter of rushed activity planning, appointment making, and the constant hum of friendly nosiness. The hallways are crowded with campaign posters, urging attention to Enrichment Evenings, upcoming firesides, the food storage competition, or the Institute class. The choir director, like Dennis Kucinich, constantly begging us to follow our better angels and show up to practice singing, even though absolutely everyone knows the ward choir is a lost cause.
In the midst of this ward, the Relief Society President and the bishop and diligent home teachers and careful, unassuming friends see the other ward, the hospital ward. The woman with the crumbling marriage, the brokenhearted father whose son has just announced he’s never going on a mission, the lonely widow, the young mother staggering to church through the haze of postpartum depression, the self-loathing gay man trying desperately to be someone else, the Beehive who just doesn’t fit in and is mercilessly teased by her classmates, the 14-year-old who hates Scouts and basketball, the middle-aged woman recently diagnosed with MS, the new convert with a burning testimony and equally burning nicotine addiction… It is a hard ward to walk through.
I used to wish that we could be more honest with each other, that Sacrament Meeting talks and Relief Society discussions would be more “real,” that we would be less shy about letting our wounds show at church. Sometimes I still wish this, and I treasure those moments when something breaks through from one ward to the other, when our collective eyes and hearts are opened for a moment to the suffering around us and we realize for just an eyeblink’s time how desperately we need each other, how tender we ought to be.
But I’ve lately learned to be grateful for the buzz of the political ward, as well. I think most of us could not bear it if we saw the hospital ward steadily. It is too hard to unbandage our wounds and let others see and heal them, too hard to gaze for long at the afflictions of our dear ones. It is a sadly human necessity to retreat into the comfortable thrum of busy-ness, to attend to the mundane and unthreatening duties of church administration, the routine of visiting teaching and making visual aids and baking refreshments and high council talks and 72-hour kits and basketball tournaments. We long to visit that other ward and offer real comfort and have our own aches and pains tended to, but secretly, we are also glad when visiting hours are over. I think we should forgive ourselves our squeamishness and our weakness, and be grateful that a merciful God gives us so many practical tasks to distract us.
It is He, after all, whose wards we are.
July 8, 2007 at 6:13 pm
Wow, Kristine. This is one of the most amazing posts I have read on any site. I have served in both the hospital and the political wards and also am grateful for each of them.
Your last sentence almost made me cry.
Thank you!
July 8, 2007 at 6:21 pm
Oh Kristine, what a beautiful post.
July 8, 2007 at 6:22 pm
What a lovely post.
July 8, 2007 at 6:56 pm
To echo Mi:
My wife was released recently after serving as YW Pres. for almost 4 year. As an integral part of both wards you describe, she was fighting back tears as she read the last half of this post. Some of her triage left her sobbing at night in my arms, but the results of some of that service also have been the highlight of her life’s work in the Church thus far. She cried when her time in the hospital ended, but she is grateful now for the current calm before the next storm.
Thank you for such a moving post – from both of us.
July 8, 2007 at 7:03 pm
“As an integral part of both wards you describe”…
Ray, I think the best folks pull this off. I’m nowhere near there–I’m the Dennis Kucinich character (rhymes with spinach!)
July 8, 2007 at 7:30 pm
I live in Ohio, Kristine. The spinach-Kucinich reference is quite funny if it leads to picturing Kucinich and Popeye next to each other.
July 8, 2007 at 7:31 pm
In this context, I like to remember the etymological relationship between the words “ward” and “guard” and “garden.”
Beautiful post, Kristine.
July 8, 2007 at 7:47 pm
Very nice, Kristine.
July 8, 2007 at 8:03 pm
Wonderful, KH. As someone just now back from a hospital ward, you’re right, it’s important to balance shared heartbreak with shared enthusiasm.
July 8, 2007 at 8:07 pm
I’m blown away. No words.
July 8, 2007 at 8:16 pm
From my own perspective in callings over the years, I would like to add that some of the most Christ-like examples of love, endurance without complaint, forgiveness and just about every other pure characteristic I have ever seen have come from members within and caring for the hospital ward.
A Bishop’s wife who was diagnosed with cancer after his call who helped him cope with her disease and refused to let him consider being released, the SP who allowed that Bishop to delegate responsibilities that normally would not be delegated, the ward leaders to picked up extra responsibilities gladly and the back row members who sat with her during SM so she wouldn’t be alone; the bi-polar, single mother, YW Pres. and the YW who understand her bad days; the elderly, mentally-disabled Priest and the YM who help him pass the sacrament — I could go on and on and on with my deep respect for these people, as well as those whose burdens most members will never know.
Kristine, I can’t think of another post that has touched my heart and brought such wonderful recollections to my soul. Again, thanks.
July 8, 2007 at 8:42 pm
I’m fairly new to the bloggernacle and have greatly enjoyed the diversity of views and opinions expressed therein. Sometimes I think too many on these posts are straining at gnats and missing the point of the gospel, which, as I think you so did so well to point out, is to tend to those in the hospital ward. It is hard, and it does tear at our hears, and it gives us just a glimpse of the love our Savior bears for each one of us.
July 8, 2007 at 9:27 pm
Thank you.
July 8, 2007 at 9:41 pm
Beautiful, Kristine. You have helped articulate why I love my ward so much — it’s a combination of these two types of wards.
Thank you for this post.
July 8, 2007 at 10:42 pm
I don’t always read BCC much (just not enough time in the day), but I’m glad I came over here today. Thanks for this post, Kristine.
July 8, 2007 at 11:13 pm
Brilliant and moving, Kristine. You can have any calling you want in our bloggernacle ward.
July 8, 2007 at 11:26 pm
Lovely, profound and moving insights into what a ward
is and should be. Thank you Kristine, and I will echo
what m&m said, that this is why I love the church
so much. When it works the way it is supposed to it
is such a perfect combination of practical busyness and
tender care and spiritual uplift. And thank you
to all of you here at BCC for your interesting and
thought provoking posts. I come here often, though this
is the first time I have posted.
July 8, 2007 at 11:45 pm
Thanks for this beautiful piece.
July 9, 2007 at 8:20 am
This is lovely.
The first things I’ve always thought of when thinking about the word “ward” are mental wards and prison wards. You’d understand if you knew anything about my family.
July 9, 2007 at 8:50 am
Simply beautiful.
July 9, 2007 at 11:22 am
This post was three kinds of great.
July 9, 2007 at 11:59 am
One of the best pieces of writing I have seen in a while. Reminds me of many of Eugene England’s personal essays, no matter how brief. As one who has responsibilities in both the “hospital” and “political” wards, you captured the magic of church service and community that I have grown to love, even as I try to love the residents of those wards more all the time.
Thank you.
July 10, 2007 at 9:02 am
What amazing insight. You’ve answered a big question I had recently. Thank you.