Comments on: Feel Marginalized? Me Too! http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/ A Mormon Blog Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:38:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Jonathan http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80512 Thu, 23 Aug 2007 19:58:15 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80512 It’s the “We’re right and we’re going to convert you” mentality. This leads to people thinking that the church can do no wrong since we’re ‘the chosen ones.’ Then when someone even thinks something negative about the church, the members are up in arms. I’m the only one in my ward who not only wasn’t offended at Helen Whitney’s documentary, but thought it was very well done. As a people, I think we definitely need to lighten up.

]]> By: janeannechovy http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80511 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 18:52:18 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80511 I always like to expand Hanlon’s law: Never attribute to malice that which can adequately be explained by stupidity, or ignorance, or indifference.

]]> By: Steve Evans http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80510 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 18:48:26 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80510 D., au contraire! Look at the fonts, the colors! Why, the very URLs are different!

]]> By: D. Fletcher http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80509 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 18:40:19 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80509 How about people that are attentive to details that just get bored with the same conversations about the same details delivered on about 1,000 different blogs over and over?

One reason I haven’t posted very frequently of late.

]]> By: Ray http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80508 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:55:00 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80508 What Steve said. Thanks, Carol, I had not looked at it that way – which is a great example of why I love this type of communication.

]]> By: Steve Evans http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80507 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 16:41:39 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80507 Carol, that’s a very, very interesting point. Thanks.

]]> By: Carol F. http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80506 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 16:37:30 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80506 Being sensitive to details and being highly observant are characteristics that only about 15-20% of the population have per Dr. Elaine Aron (www.hsperson.com). This trait is probably very common among Bloggernacle bloggers and commenters, though you may deny it, especially if you are a man. To contrast, there are many LDS people (probably around 80%) who just plain don’t care and don’t need to discuss the finer points of LDS doctrine beyond Sunday School, if there.

If you are still following this train of thought, there is a high chance of those same qualities coming into play and a new person feeling ignored and such, even among other detail-oriented people. Of course it isn’t meant, and of course you have to earn your way in and stay and get to know people and them know you, but it is bound to happen on all blogs, and especially LDS blogs. And no, it doesn’t always translate into having been “offended”. It is just a feeling of vulnerability and you either bail or toughen up or figure it out.

]]> By: Questions... http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80505 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 00:24:30 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80505 k l h:

It is interesting how many years of activity and commitment seem to create a gravitational pull of sorts (to continue the metaphor) such that even those who have completely severed ties with the Church still hover around LDS blogs.

I’m not in that category, however, and find many of the “disaffected” blogs to be full of a lot of arrogance and negative energy. I guess that’s why I still lurk around places like this..

BTW, I got a good laugh from your first comment (#27)!

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]]> By: k l h http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80504 Mon, 20 Aug 2007 22:34:35 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80504 Questions:

Oh there’s a lots of orbiters occasionally about, too (yet we still orbit–since actual “disaffected”-themed blogs don’t satisfy our longings for Mormon thought and quasi-community?)

]]> By: Questions... http://bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/19/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80503 Mon, 20 Aug 2007 19:45:50 +0000 http://www.bycommonconsent.com/2007/08/feel-marginalized-me-too/#comment-80503 I appreciate the comments and perspectives offered, and found the link to Kaimi’s other post instructive.

No, I don’t have a chip on my shoulder, and will likely chime in when I think I have something to contribute. I guess that part of the problem is that at this point in my life I seem to be getting farther out in the ‘borderlands’, nearing escape velocity, and so have less in common with most of those here, and also with what I assume to be a ‘faithful, church affirmative’ overall stance of the blog itself, which I don’t want to violate.

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