Comments on: Chastity

By: MattG

MattG — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 04:12:18 +0000

jo,

Are you serious? Mary was far from being a single mum. She was married to Joseph and had several children with him. Not to mention the fact that God the Father had a significant role in raising her Firstborn son. She was hardly alone. And I don’t think anyone’s criticising single parents here anyway….

By: jo

jo — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 02:26:05 +0000

i am a single mother of a single mother, children are a gift not a sin, mary was the origin single mother, the mother of jesus, get over yourselves.

By: jo

jo — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 02:24:50 +0000

i am a single mother of a single mother,children are a gift not all people experience, its not a sin to have children, look at mary, the mother of jesus, she was a single mum, get over it

By: MCQ

MCQ — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 09:29:44 +0000

I’ve never had the opportunity for any sexual activity with another person

You’ve obviously not been hanging out in the right bars.

As for masturbation; I can’t remember when I’ve heard a mormon woman stand up for it as a hobby. You go girl!

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 05:48:14 +0000

I’m a single woman in my late 20s. I’ve never had the opportunity for any sexual activity with another person so I can’t really say how I feel about premarital sex or whether church ideals should be changed on that. I don’t think I’m ever going to understand the harsh stance on masturbation though or the misconception that it always leads to greater sins. For some people it does but for the vast majority of people it doesn’t. Otherwise we’d all be out having one night stands with multiple partners and pornography addicts. At least that’s what all the law of chastity lessons I’ve heard in my singles branch have intimidate. Although for me I’ve found that it’s quite the opposite of what is preached and that when I went for a long time without doing it because it’s considered a sin, it was the first time I felt tempted to do something worse like go out and pick up someone to have a one night stand with. I’m not going to justify it but it still bothers me to a certain extent that it is considered so wrong when it’s the one thing that’s curbed me from doing something far worse. Maybe if there was less guilt and implication of evil tied to masturbation there’d be less actual premarital sex. Or maybe I’m wrong and just trying to justify my own wrong doing.

I do not have a problem with waiting for marriage to actually have sex but I do feel like there is an assumption in church teachings that I can turn off that need for it or ignore it because I haven’t been blessed with marriage yet.

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Singles » Comment on Chastity by Ry — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 03:17:00 +0000

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By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 23:14:49 +0000

I don’t have the info right here but I have read 2 studies that those who wait until marriage to have sex are more likely to have happy marriages. There is another study out which also says that the reason why cohabitating couples are more likely to divorce is because they are also associated with more premarital sex partners which is associated with a higher divorce rate. Overall the statistics seem to state that Chastity before marriage leads to higher rates of satisfaction within marriage. As far as what problems chastity may cause concerning a sexual relationship within marriage, most of those will be greatly moderated by Committed and caring spouses who are willing to put each others needs before their own.

I also have done some research on temple divorce rates and the statistics show that those married in the temple have the lowest divorce rates of group that we have statistics for including different religions, non religious etc. By far actually. Keeping the commandments does make you much more likely to have satisfying relationships.

By: Ray

Ray — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 21:04:05 +0000

Agreed, Jim.

By: Jim

Jim — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 20:53:12 +0000

Re: Ray #68
In my opinion, and again, without any data to substantiate, I believe the number of mediocre spouses far outweigh the number of “lousy” spouses.

I believe that there is a tendency for husband/wife to become complacent after a few or several years of marriage. This is probably more prevalent than unchastity (IMO) and is also detrimental….

By: bbell

bbell — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 20:18:48 +0000

“Our prohibition on pre-marital sexual intercourse leads many to marry too young and totally unprepared for the rigors and demands of married life—and for a successful, fulfilling sex life, I might add”

I have to say that I read comments like this in the bloggernaccle all the time. Based on the really low temple divorce rates that Ray and I have mentioned I feel that statements like these are not backed up by actual research/facts.