Comments on: Hypothetically

By: Steve

Steve — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 21:01:26 +0000

The Word of Wisdom speaks approvingly of barley for all useful animals, and for mild drinks, as also other grain. Does that indicate that mild barley beverage are okey?

By: plvmetz

plvmetz — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 05:46:27 +0000

Assuming they are in a “normal” ward, they are probably already getting a range of wise and unwise advice from certain people. I would do my best to repent of my own sins so that I don’t bring a negative influence into their lives. I would do my best to become genuine friends with them, but refrain from giving them advice.

By: John W.

John W. — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 05:35:29 +0000

My dear mother has been through the Temple 4 times in her 65 years. She has always held Stake positions and is very devout. Let’s face it, the Temple can be kinda weird. I don’t much like it myself. After the changes in 1990 I liked it a lot more. Give it a shot. If it is good go back if not don’t, but give it a shot. I doubt the Lord will condemn you for not liking it. It is worth going just to experience it.

By: Ann

Ann — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 04:26:31 +0000

The church will take everything you are willing to give it and it will never be enough. You have to take of yourself spiritually, first and foremost. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. What Kevin said.

There are lots of ways of doing that. Praying and reading scriptures with your spouse is one of them. Sometimes the way we’re advised to do that, it sounds sort of like, “Eat your beets,” or “Finish your liver.” Think of it more as “take ten minutes for a head, neck and shoulder massage.”

Oh, and what Steve Evans said about a blessing, too. For both of you!

I went on a silent retreat for a few hours on a Saturday once, just me and 15 other people I didn’t speak with and some focussed readings from the spiritual director of the retreat. It was awesome. Like a dip in a cool pool on a hot Louisiana day.

Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Cut yourself some slack. Just be.

By: BrianJ

BrianJ — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 03:54:57 +0000

Adam Greenwood, 43: Why does it need a bishop? Note: I have no doubt that it would be a loving process.

By: Ray

Ray — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 03:46:42 +0000

Thanks, Kevin; I should have thought of that one. Tony, that’s an excellent starting point – and I’m sure one of the questions you could ask is about bulletin boards elsewhere.

By: Adam Greenwood

Adam Greenwood — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 03:46:20 +0000

Is the mild barley beverage a problem that needs a Bishop?

Yep. They’ll probably find that its a spiritually strengthening and loving process that won’t require much of anything other than a visit.

By: Kevin Barney

Kevin Barney — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 03:27:57 +0000

Tony, you could try the “Ask the Apologist” feature at the FAIR website, fairlds.org.

By: queuno

queuno — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 02:51:07 +0000

I agree with Tony (40) about 32. Unless the ancestors are holocaust survivors and are actual direct ancestors of F&G, family “permission” isn’t needed.

By: Tony

Tony — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 02:05:50 +0000

Re: 10- Yes, Ray, I meant to say “re: 5″, not 4… I guess nobody here frequents forums. Too bad, I have so many questions.

I think most of you are missing the point…this isn’t about going to the temple, this is about two people struggling in general and who likely feel they have no one to talk to. I know that feeling well. It seems that in the rush to get baptized and into the life of the church after about the two year mark one is kind of abandoned, left to their own devices with no one to turn to to ask what might be considered “difficult” questions.

Re: 32- who cares what family members think? I plan to do work for my deceased parents and other relatives regardless of what my siblings or other relatives say.