Sometimes I think that we forget just how wide the gap is between how we approach morality and how God approaches morality. There are times when seeking to emulate the way that God handles a situation is, very likely, the absolute worst way to deal with a human problem.
Here is an example:
Imagine that you know someone is a pedophile. Imagine that you know that the pedophile is alone in a room with a small child. Imagine that you could intervene, but instead you choose to see how it plays out. If the pedophile overcomes his desires and doesn’t abuse the child, you will have given him an opportunity to grow. However, if the pedophile does abuse the child, you will be sure to punish him afterward. The memory of the abuse will be something that the child can draw on in order to learn, also. So, winners all around.
This is how God seems to operate. It is potentially understandable and moral, but not by any human moral standard. Part of the reason is that God’s perspective tends to downplay the immediacy of mortal interaction. Mortal life and experience is bounded by life and death. Even though there is an afterlife, the very nature of it makes it different (if you die and continue to exist, then that proves some things about God that you have to take on faith in mortal life). While God can say legitimately that he will take care of the problem eventually, it doesn’t lessen the pain of an immediate, bounded, horrible mortal experience to know that there will one day be a reckoning. The child will still cry after abuse and the scars will be carried with her throughout life.
There are times when an eternal perspective will help. For souls who need healing, there don’t appear to be many other options, much less better ones. A notion of personal eternal damnation may occasionally guide our judgment well, as may a notion of eternal salvation. However, the eternal perspective can also make us lazy, putting off for tomorrow the change that we need today. In particular, the attitude that “God will sort it all out” can result in complacency or, even worse, indifference to the suffering of others.
The one thing that God always seems to do (at least for me) is express love and compassion. When I have approached God in the midst of my trials, I have rarely received answers that make any human sense. Overwhelmed, I have felt his love and an assurance that he is at the wheel. I often find myself thinking along the lines of 1st Nephi 11:17. I don’t know that other justifications of God’s behavior are possible or helpful.
For me, the knowledge of God’s love and compassion for me and the assumption that he feels equally about all indicates that he is moral, that he is loving, and that this is all to the good. But I still wouldn’t recommend for mortals to emulate Him in all things. We can’t share his divine perspective.