It’s a good thing you’re not a creepy kind of lawyer, but as a former air traffic controller, you have to be very, very familiar with creepy faux professionals. Hard to imagine a more creepy segment of the federal workforce than the controllers. I would place the creepiest lawyer way above the average controller-not even close in my experience.

I’m working very hard on the real issue (I’ve two daughters I still have responsibility for).

I play taxi for cub scouts whose parents work. Their parents are single and work because they have to, and I am happy to help out.

But, I admit that if I was approached with the attitude that, “I am working to be fulfilled, and since you’re just a ‘soccer mom who is a glorified taxi’ anyways, will you carpool my kid along with you”, I don’t know that I’d be so generous.

Doing both a career and family and working it out on your own is one thing. Relying on other parents who have made the other choice is another thing. I am not sure that is what you are saying in your comment, but that’s how it came across to me.

Again, this is not an all or nothing situation. It is really not that hard to do both (family and career) so long as you do it the way that works for you and your family and not based on someone else’s perceived ideas of how a family should run.

Because I grew up in a very large family with two working parents and living way out on a farm, I never had a soccer mom who was a glorified taxi. When my children started doing activities, they understood that it was their responsibility to arrange carpools etc if needed because I was not a taxi (except on Saturdays from 10 to 2). If you feel like you should be a mom’s taxi 24/7 then you are going to have a hard time having a career too. You will have to make some choices.

1. Biology esp for women but also has new studies are showing for men as well fertility wise. As I have aged I have felt my body start to wear out and am thankful that I had 4-5 kids in my twenties.

2. its a form of idol worship. We are in essence worshipping our careers or potential careers over what the scriptures and church teach us about families and their importance in the world.

This is John’s money quote on this topic

“The key to having the freedom and flexibility to have the career that you want, I would think, is to postpone marriage and family until you are already in that career — this applies to both men and women. If someone doesn’t have dependents (whether spouse or child(ren)), then one can do anything one wants, get whatever education one wants wherever and whenever one wants at whatever cost and switch in and out of careers at one’s own leisure to choose the one that most perfectly gives an outlet to personal professional ambitions. Postponing marriage and family, however, probably won’t figure into the Church’s counsel anytime in the near future, whether men or women”