There is a kind of meme in the Church to the effect that women who have already been sealed to a husband in the temple, but then are widowed or divorced, have seriously diminished marriage prospects due to the fact that they are not available to be sealed to another man in the here and now.
I am curious about this. Maybe it reflects a lack of faith on my part, but I have a hard time imagining myself being swayed against interest in a particular woman for that reason. I’m not sure it would even occur to me to worry about such a thing.
1. Have any of you witnessed this phenomenon? Any stories you would like to share?
2. Assuming this is a real phenomenon, what do you think about it? Is it justified on the part of the men who are putative suitors of these women? After all, we make such a huge deal about the importance of getting sealed in the temple, can we blame them for not wanting to “settle” for a woman where such a sealing is not available?
3. How does this look from the perspective of a woman who loses a spouse while still young? She has a long life to live on this earth with diminished prospects; is that fair?
4. Should there be policy changes that would ameliorate this kind of situation? If so, what should the policy changes be?
Your thoughts appreciated.