Go together like a horse and carriage, or so the ditty says.1 What it really means is that love=sex and you can’t have that without marriage. At least among respectable people.
Once-upon-a-time someone did a youth survey in the Mormon Corridor. The upshot was that there was less pre-marital intercourse, but more pre-intercourse, uh, stuff going on. While I was a church leader, I had few confessions of pre-marital non-intercourse type fooling around, but we lived in a small unit. Having done the usual talking with friends, I’m pretty sure that “touching inappropriately” (is that the appropriate way to put it?) by loving unmarried but nearly married couples is well, not that uncommon. But how common is it now, I wonder. I’m mainly thinking of folks on the way to the altar (including a temple altar). A few decades back, one of my friends who was a bishop in another area even earlier, told me of a couple in his ward who were traveling to the temple. They pulled off the road to snooze a bit. The urge took them and they couldn’t resist and went all the way. Then they drove on to the temple and got married. He knew this of course because they came in after the honeymoon and confessed in extreme guilt.
So here you go. You pre-marrieds out there, or post-marrieds, (that’s everybody right?) what do you say? And what’s permissible for the engaged? I know the strength of youth answer. What’s yours?
1. From the eponymous song by Sammy Cahn and Jimmy Van Heusen. Made famous by Frank Sinatra and then as the theme song of 90s series “Married … with Children.” (Wherein the writers always spelled “gross” and “stupid” with capital letters.)