For Amri, on her wedding day

Our Amri got married today. She was perfectly, astonishingly, beautifully herself, and everything about the day invited us into her beaming smile, and made it easy to believe in love.

being to timelessness as it’s to time,
love did no more begin than love will end;
where nothing is to breathe to stroll to swim
love is the air the ocean and the land

(do lovers suffer? all divinities
proudly descending put on deathful flesh”
are lovers glad? only their smallest joy’s
a universe emerging from a wish)

love is the voice under all silences,
the hope which has no opposite in fear;
the strength so strong mere force is feebleness:
the truth more first than sun more last than star

–do lovers love? why then to heaven with hell.
Whatever sages say and fools, all’s well

(E. E. Cummings)

Three cheers for Amri and Brett and love!


  1. Steve Evans says:

    Hip, hip, hooray! CONGRATULATIONS!

  2. Yep. Wonderful.

  3. Congratulations!

  4. Thanks for the reminder.

    Congratulations, Amri and Brett. May you grow together as one through the years and never lose the glow that lights your eyes today.

  5. Congrats!
    (Today was the day for ‘nacle weddings, I guess. I think Connor got married today, too.)

  6. C’mon I want a picture of the pink wedding dress!


  7. Congratulations, Amri.

  8. Wish I could have been their in person… Congratulations HOORAY for your happiness!

  9. Congrats Amri–happy for you!

  10. Do tell us about the wedding. I hear it was, um, unconventional…!

  11. If the poem reflects the feeling of the wedding, it must have been excellent. Can’t wait to hear the debriefing.

  12. Congratulations! There are few things more beautiful than when someone finds their favorite person in the world. Wish I could have been there to see it!

  13. Proud Daughter of Eve says:

    Omedetou gozaimasu! ^__^

  14. Aaron Brown says:

    Congrats, Amri! Now, don’t go off and die of some strange disease in Iquitos…

    Aaron B

  15. Kevin Barney says:

    I just got back from attending the wedding. I’ll try to tell you a little bit about my trip.

    My wife Sandy and I flew to Boston early on Friday and arrived about noon. We planned to take the T (subway) to the Cambridge Marriott, where we stayed. At O’Hare they’ve got signs up the wazoo for how to get to the train, but rhere were no signs at the airport. We asked someone who gave us some unhelpful and misleading directions, and then we asked another person who gave us some more helpful instructions. We finally got on a bus that took us to the T. It took a little while to get the hang of it, but once we did, we found that it was the most efficient way to get around.

    After checking in to our hotel, we went into Boston and walked the Freedom Trail, which is a several mile trail where you visit historic sites along the way. We love history, so this was a perfect way to spend the day. That evening, ECS and her husband picked us up and took us to a little prewedding gathering at the place where Amri worked, next to Longfellow house. We drove by Harvard along the way (I’ve never been there before). We met some of Amri’s and Brett’s family and chatted for a bit.

    The next morning we toured the USS Constitution, which was very interesting. Our guide was a really buff young seaman who joined the Navy just a year ago, and he did a good job. For lunch we just got some ice cream at Cold Stone (I had a yogurt triple berry freeze thingie).

    We came back to the hotel and I took a shower, as it was quite hot and humid and we had been doing a lot of walking. Then we went to go to the wedding. Luckily we ran into Amri’s younger sister in the elevator, because I was turned around in my directions and I might have started going the wrong way. Several of us walked together about two or three blocks north to the Church.

    It is a Mormon church, which houses the Cambridge 1 and 2 wards, but it is a converted factory of some sort. ECS had told me previously that it’s a cool building, and whe wasn’t lying. The chapel has lots of exposed wood and big pipes and beautiful windows behind the pulpit. It’s definitely not your cookie cutter building.

    Then the wedding itself started. It was officiated by smb’s wife Kate, who was both funny and touching and did a tremendous job. smb contributed a couple of commentaries as a part of the service, and at one point he jokingly said something to the effect of “thank God for the Commonwealth of Massachusetts for giving a Mormon woman the priesthood to officiate a wedding in a Mormon chapel,” or words to that effect. That was hilarious and was my favorite part.

    Amri wore a very pretty vintage wedding dress, which somehow featured pink (someone who understands fashion better than I will have to explain it), and she looked just lovely in it. She beamed the whole time and obviously was very happy. Brett was cool and funny. They are a great couple and will have a wonderful life together.

    Upstairs someone had done a chronological time line of their lives so far, plastered with lots of pictures; it was very creative and funny. We stood around talking and munching a bit. I got to finally meet Melissa Proctor and talk to her about her dissy and her academic plans. (BTW, absolutely all of the women at this thing were intelligent, and I have a strong tendency to perceive intelligence in a woman as beauty, so AFAIC they were all quite beautiful. I couldn’t figure out whether they were all so smart because we were in Cambridge or because these were the kinds of people who would hang with the Browns. In any event, the women were all gorgeous.)

    Then we had a very nice buffet dinner, with pulled pork, chicken, briscuit, and various vegetables and such. It was very good. After dinner, folks associated with BCC had their picture taken together: RT, SV, Kristine, Amri, smb, moi, alumna ECS (did I forget anyone?). There was a bit of a dance for awhile, of sorts; it was mostly girls dancing together as a big group. I danced with SV for a bit (RT is not a dancer), but she soon had to sit down due to her pregnancy. So I danced for a bit as part of the crowd, but dancing as a big crowd is more of a female cultural trait than male, I think; it felt weird to me, so I gave up.

    This morning we went to sacrament meeting with ECS and husband (there weren’t enough hymnals in the chapel, so I had to try to sing by memory); after we went by their place (very cute!) and changed into more comfortable clothes. We then took a nice drive up to Concord, saw Walden, had lunch in a quaint little cafe, drove along a minuteman trail, and then they dropped us off at the airport.

    And here I am typing this back home in Chicago.

    The wedding was definitely the coolest Mormon wedding I’ve ever attended (admittedly a low bar).

  16. yippee!

    I love love!

    also want pics. Please.