Would you allow your teenage daughter to attend a sleepover hosted by her friend who recently self-identified as lesbian?
About a year ago I posted on that other blog about the girl-on-girl trend sweeping pop culture. My biggest concern then was the way this trend seems geared toward male gratification. And that still turns my stomach.
But today I’m thinking about a different facet of the problem: the confusion this trend has generated in relationships between young women. To quote myself:
I don’t think homosexuality should be demonized. But I don’t think it should be normalized. And I certainly don’t think it should be glamorized. I’m particularly concerned about the glamorization of lesbian sexual activity, because women’s sexual orientation has been shown to be much more fluid than men’s, which means women are more susceptible to sociocultural influence on their sexual behavior.
I don’t have my head in the sand about the reality of lesbian attraction. Some young women are going to feel significant, spontaneous sexual attraction to other women. But young women kissing each other simply because it’s cool? If they find themselves aroused–and some certainly will–that can add a whole lotta unnecessary complexity and confusion to a developmental process already fraught with difficulty and danger.
This complexity vividly came to mind yesterday when a friend told me about her 14-year-old daughter’s conundrum, and asked me the question I asked you at the beginning of the post. And now you may answer.