[Note: The following text was taken verbatim from the M Men-Gleaner Manual, “Love, Marriage, and You” used in 1956-1957. Previous entries in this series can be found here.]
Becoming Well Acquainted
ABOUT a year ago a young man, age twenty, met a girl in Salt Lake City at a church social. He danced with her twice that evening and then made a date for the next afternoon. They went out together every evening for the next five days. At the end of that time they both thought they were madly in love and agreed to get married, which they did. Before many weeks had passed both the girl and the young man realized they had made a serious mistake. There had been romantic glamour when they knew little about each other, but as their personalities unfolded, a satisfying love relationship became impossible. They had nothing in common except the fleeting romance of those first few “artificial” dates. They had failed to get acquainted before marriage and in this particular situation there was only one way out-disillusionment, heartaches and divorce.
The other extreme might also be mentioned. There was a couple who lived in England who went together for about two years and then became engaged. They were both twenty-three years of age. They decided to postpone marriage until they were a little better acquainted and particularly until they had acquired some material possessions. First they wanted silverware; then they desired a special kind of china; next furniture; then they wanted a house and a car. In 1936 this man and woman had been engaged thirty-two years and they were planning on getting married “just as soon as we have our machine (auto) paid for.”
1. What was wrong with each of these two situations?
2. Why is it important to get well acquainted with the person you are going to marry?