How do I stand up to shaming/bullying?
Shame is one of the most powerful emotions we learn as children. We pretty much all can remember times when we were embarrassed by something we did or said and another or others made fun of us. That hot feeling of shame can stay with us a lot longer than other emotions and can fester into feelings of low to no self-worth. When we see people being shamed publicly, that is a form of judging others, or bullying and we can, as President Ucthtorf has implored us, do what we can to “Stop It.”
Prepare Yourself Spiritually
What scriptures talk about Jesus Christ standing up for bullying?
Matthew 25:40 (Who are those that are the least of these?)
John 8: 1–11 (How did Jesus Christ respond to the men who brought the woman to him to be judged?)
Romans 1:18 (How do we show that we are not ashamed of the Savior in standing up for those who are being bullied?)
Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “The Merciful Obtain Mercy.”
“Friends,” “Strength of the Youth” Pamphlet.
At the beginning of each class, invite the young women to share, teach, and testify about the experiences they have had applying what they learned in the previous week’s lesson. This will encourage personal conversion and help the young women see the relevance of the gospel in their daily lives.
Introduce the Doctrine
Choose from these ideas or think of your own to introduce this week’s lesson:
- Write on the board, “We can stop bullying in all of its forms by ____________.” Why as young women of Christ, do we need to be extra vigilent in helping those who may be bullied?
- Read together the story about a young woman standing in front of an entire mob of bullies in President Oscarson’s talk “Defenders of the Proclamation.” Ask the young women how they stand up to bullies in their life. Talk about how people can use technology to say and send mean and even inappropriate things and what to do when that happens.
Each of the activities below will help the young women learn how to stand up to shaming/bullying. Following the inspiration of the Spirit, select one or more that will work best for your class:
- Divide the young women into groups. Have them find examples in the scriptures or church history of times when men and women stood up for what was right against bullies, even when it was frightening.
- Invite the young women to tell of a time when they did not stand up for someone who was being bullied. How would they change their actions if they could?
- Have them read the story “Being Brave.” Talk about times when they did stand up for someone and how that made them feel. Have them copy the quote from Bishop Burton on having the courage to stand tall.
- Show them the resources on StopBullying.gov. Set out a plan as a mutual to support one another when they see bullying of feel bullied.
Ask the young women to share what they learned today. Do they understand how that they have a responsibility to stand up against bullying whenever they can? And that they have friends and mutual leaders who they can talk to if they feel unsafe? What feelings or impressions do they have? Do they have any additional questions? Would it be helpful to spend more time on this doctrine?
Live what we are learning
Invite the young women to consider how they will live by what they have learned today. For example, they could: