There has been a lot of talk about the policy change and what it means for the Church and for each of us. I deplore the policy change. But guess what — I’m not going anywhere. This is my church and my people.
Mormons feel so much pressure to follow predetermined paths. These come from lots of different sources: church leaders, parents, peers, ex-Mormons, spouses, the list goes on and on. But Jesus has made it clear that He is the way, the truth and the life. All other narratives are false. We’re not here to be subject to some inexorable pattern laid out for us by other people. We’re here to take on ourselves the name of Christ and abandon such false stories (including the false stories we tell about ourselves ).
So I see this policy change, this awful policy change that I cannot support, and already I see the narratives circling. Gosh, this must mean I don’t believe in the Church anymore and must be reconsidering my membership! Goodness, if I don’t support this policy change, I’m a bad Mormon! But those stories are false. I am who I am before God, and am responsible before Him only. I refuse to follow some stupid cookie cutter journey towards apostasy. I also refuse to embrace a narrative of fundamentalism and judgment over my fellow Saints. Screw both of those paradigms. This is my church and my people.
 Thanks to Adam Miller for teaching me about narratives, true and false.